John and Marie
“As a guy, I thought I should be better at this than I was. Did you ever feel alone but you weren’t alone? Thats how I felt in my marriage. I couldn’t reach her. I couldn’t do anything right. It seemed that my very presence upset her. So I started to pull back. Which of course only made matters worse. I sent my wife the link to your website and said: why not? At first she said no – but eventually we agreed and it really helped. For the first time in a long time I started to feel like we were in this thing together. I had no idea how I had hurt her or pushed her away – and the solutions you taught us were so simple! Consistency was the hard part, of course. But the difference in our marriage between then and now – it’s night and day.”
Mike and Lucy
“I came to this process due to an ultimatum. My wife said either we entered counselling or she was going to leave. At the time, I really didn’t think there was anything that could be done to help us. I wasn’t even sure I loved her anymore and I thought she was going to be angry with me forever. So I was pretty surprised when things started getting better. Not at first – at first it almost got worse. But eventually, I started to…hope. To see that we didn’t have to live like that anymore. I began to remember why I fell in love with her in the first place. I began to see how I contributed to the hurt and the resentment. I liked that Clay didn’t hold back and was actually blunt about what needed to be done. And I liked that he treated us equally. It wasn’t all my fault and it wasn’t all Lucy’s fault – but we both had done things that needed to be fixed. I guess marriage doesn’t come with an instructional manuel. But now we both are able to lean on each other more and love each other better. Like Clay says – it’s not easy, but it’s worth it.”
Nancy and Jim
“We just want to thank you for saving our marriage. I know you always say that it’s not you, that it is us that have to put in the work and make the changes – but without your help we would have both lost the loves of our lives – and that would have been tragic.”
Marge and Tim
“After 10 years of marriage, my husband and I came to a place of “blah”. We weren’t unhappy – but we certainly weren’t happy either. Life has a way of beating you down and it certainly had taken it’s toll on us. One day I asked myself: “Is this it? Is this all I can expect?” and then I thought: “What if we could make it better?” I began looking for a marriage therapist and came across Mr. Cockrell’s site. It sounded interesting and I liked his approach of technique based counselling. The convenience was the real selling point. I skype with my friends all the time – and our schedules really prevented us from meeting with a therapist for regular one on one sessions. I have to say that in only a few sessions, my husband and I began looking at each other a little differently. There was a spark there that had been absent for quite a while. We did the techniques and readings and soon the “aloneness” that we shared was replaced by a togetherness. I suddenly felt like I had someone in my life that “had my back”. Like I said – our marriage wasn’t bad to begin with, but now it’s something that I treasure. Thanks Clay!”
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